Master The Art Of Being Rejected

How good are you at being rejected? The ability to handle
rejection is one of the most important skills we can master in
life. As you pursue your dreams, there will always be those who
will tell you that you just aren't good enough. The road to the
attainment of our goals is rarely rejection-free. Yet, when doors
are slammed in our faces, many of us conclude we must be on the
wrong track. It is amazing how willing we are to abandon our
heartfelt dreams because someone else doesn't believe in us.

REJECTION AND YOU

It’s hard to be rejected when it’s your art being rejected. It does not come close to the same feeling as not being selected for a team, or a job. It hits a much harder and closer to home plate. The feeling is more closely related to that of being dumped by someone you love, and having all your personal belonging thrown on the lawn when you’re:

A. Not used to being rejected or

B. Look at rejection negatively and lack coping skills on that department

Rejection is never what we want to get into our email, our mailbox or hear in person or on the telephone (including texting). Most of the time when rejection comes we had been waiting for a period of time, holding onto hope, which makes the rejection ever harder to take. We can look at it as a slap in the face or we can change the way we view the rejection, and gain wisdom and move forward and grow.

OPTIMISM
There is no reason for not being optimistic about opportunities you try for because if you always think you will be rejected in fear of losing that high feeling of possibility, you losing the point, and you will be rejected more often with a poor attitude. Always be optimistic but don’t let your world crumble when you don’t get what you want. Having a temper tantrum is a slight turn off, try to avoid that.

CURATORS/EDITORS AND THE OPINIONATED (added via suggestion)
Many times when submitting to something you have the opinion of just a couple people, and sometimes just one person. Note that the person who is looking at the work might be looking for something specific or might have a specific taste, which directly means that it might not be about the quality and how great technically you pull off your craft, but more about the needs of the project.

REJECTION. WHY IS IT GOOD??

1) This means there is room for improvement. It could mean with your art, the way you wrote a submissions, or your attitude. No matter what and who you are, there is always room to improve, and use that rejection as a catapult to get on doing that! Show those people that did not take you on that you are high class, respectable and took what they said with grace, and that you are working to do better and better. This makes them look at you, and keep you in mind for future projects.

2) Rejection makes you humble. It makes you understand that you don’t get everything you want. Who does?

3) Rejection might be keeping you from making a mistake. Maybe the universe is watching out for you making sure your plate is not too full so you don’t overload and fail, and put too much pressure on yourself.

4) Rejection can be informative, motivating and encouraging.

5) Look at it this way: You got rejected, you did not get ignored - which I feel is much worse.

SIX STEPS TO MASTERING THE ART OF REJECTION

In spite of the rejection they encountered, these individuals
persevered. Each was challenged to believe in himself or herself
when others didn't. Each refused to allow someone else's negative
opinion to become a roadblock in the pursuit of lifelong dreams.

You, too, can use the inevitable rejection that comes your way to
fortify your belief in yourself and fuel your progress. Here are
six steps you can take to master the art of being rejected:

1. Let rejection be a signal to go inward, and do some soul- searching. Ask yourself: What do I really desire to create in my
life? Am I pursuing this path because it is truly what I want, or
is it what someone else wants for me? Then write down your goals.

2. Use rejection as an opportunity to better yourself. Ask for
constructive criticism. Take note of any ways you can perform
better next time. Would it help to take a class or read a book on
the subject? Then do it.

3. Reconnect with your inner guidance. Close your eyes and ask
yourself what the next step is for you. Be still and the answer
will come--either right away, or in the next few weeks. Your
inner guidance is always moving you towards something, rather
than away from something. It gently nudges you to take those
actions which will enable the fulfillment of your desires.

4. Remember to lighten up and have fun along the way. When you
are following your bliss, you are in alignment with your higher
purpose. Let your life be a joyful adventure, in which the
journey is as important as the destination. Try not to take
yourself so seriously.

5. Remind yourself that encounters with those who do not believe
in you are an opportunity to strengthen your belief in yourself,
and your commitment to following your inner guidance. Only you
hold the map of your life territory within you. Others cannot
possibly know what is right for you, or what you are capable of
doing, being, or having.

6. Visualize the attainment of your dreams. Put your body in a
comfortable position, either seated or lying down. Close your
eyes, and take some deep breaths. Imagine that it is a year from
now, and that all of your dreams have become a reality. Create a
movie in your mind, in which you live those dreams. Make it as
real as you can. Be lighthearted and playful with your
imagination. Get excited about it. Use all of your senses. Don't
worry if you can't see things clearly--its okay if you just sense
what it feels like to have attained your goals.

7. Celebrate your rejections, for they are a sure sign that you
are stepping out of your comfort zone and living your life to the
fullest!

And finally rejection is not failure. 

*Aisha chaudhary*

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Don,t Hit Me Teacher!

 

 

 

It is not possible that you grew up without getting spanked or punished ever in your childhood. But in those days, we had ways to laugh it off and may be sometimes we thought we deserved it somehow, so took it lightly.

But now, with the innocence of children getting lost so early in their lives, with exposure of media, the social network bullying, with excessive stress of studies, games, extra activities, and mounting parental expectation, a child is no more the same free spirit. He not just carries the burden of his heavy bag; he also bears on his shoulders the responsibility to be a good student, a good sportsperson, a guitarist, a skating or chess enthusiast. He not just deals with (and some times succumb to the peer pressure), he also bears the brunt of a hassled, irritated and stress laden teacher.

 

 

 

 

Physical punishment such as hitting with a scale on the palms, or with a pencil stuck between fingers and a scale hit over the hand, or caning or twisting ears or slapping or standing with hands up or a chair position or even worse the arms crossed through legs holding ears, making a child stand in the sun for hours etc.

Mental punishment like getting slapped by the opposite sex, scolding abusing and humiliating, labeling a child for misbehaviour and parading him around the school or making a child stand at the back of the class, or sit on the floor of the class are very severe but still exist. If you went to a public school or your child studies in a public school, then you might think its done in Govt schools. Partly, yes, socioeconomic status determines a lot in this.

Every other day, the newspapers are full of incidents where a child got fractured by teacher’s beatings, or committed suicide either due to insult and embarrassment meted out to him in school. . It is unfortunate. Being a teacher , it breaks my heart each time I read a news like that. It scares me.




      A 6 year old girl was talking in the class. And the next moment, a lungi clad male teacher barges in the class, picks up the girl, takes her to science lab and sexually assaults her, in the presence of a lady teacher, for being indisciplined in the class. Moreover, when she cries out in pain, cloth is stuffed in her mouth and she is threatened not to tell anyone.

     A 16 year old boy commits suicide after he is thrashed in the class by his teacher for missing his school on his birthday.

Now, the question is what do we do as parents? Yes, true, we all are educated, we can fight for our children. But what if, your child gets too scared to talk? Its really important to keep the communication channel open with our kids, always. Also, if the child is scared or nervous about going to school, his fears should not be laughed away.

In fact what I feel is that when we can hit back in self defense as a grown up, why can’t a child hit back, if he feels enough is enough. As it is no body, not even one’s parents have any right to hit a child, then why a teacher? (By the way, draft Prevention of Offences Against Child Bill, if passed, will ban domestic corporal punishment to a child also. I so very welcome this move!)

Who is a teacher or a principal of a staff member to take away a child’s dignity? If a teacher hits a child and thereby violating the child’s Right to Life, then a child also has the right to hit back to save himself for any further harm, and then no disciplinary action should be there against him. Because, it’s the teacher who started it all. Why do we have to believe “jo bade karte hain, woh hamare bhale ke liye hota hai” (whatever elders do is for our betterment). Its much better than another child dying first mentally, emotionally and then physically that he learns to give back to such demonish, cruel and heartless teachers.

Dear reader, what is your say about it? To some, it would be revolting, hitting one’s teacher….. whatever you think, please let me know….

 

7 ways to mak3 a good impr3ssion

Impressions are important: They leave an initial taste in people's mouths that can remain prevalent for the entire relationship. If you are paranoid about what kind of impression you make, run through these seven list items and see if you are consistent with them; if you are, then you will probably expose the best of yourself. If not, then work to meet these standards.

1. Dress:
The absolute first impression you will make on someone will be through your clothing, because that is what is seen from a distance, and cannot change throughout your meeting. Make sure to dress according to the situation-don't over or under dress-and maintain within the limits of good taste. If you aren't sure if what you're wearing looks good, ask people for an honest opinion. One last thought: always, and I mean always, pull up your pants

2. Hygiene:
Take a shower! Shave! Brush your teeth! You must be fully bathed and groomed before you meet with someone for the first time, because scruffy looking people generally don't seem as neat and mature. Pay attention to the little elements like breath: keep a pack of mint gum with you wherever you go, and periodically check to make sure you aren't killing bugs every time you breathe out. If you sweat heavily, keep a small stick of deodorant/anti-perspirant close, and if you notice you're stinking you can freshen up. People notice the minutiae!

3. Manners:

At the table and with other people be civilized, polite and respectful: keep your elbows off of the table, open doors for people and address everyone-initially, at least-by their formal title. This will make an especially good impression on senior citizens, because you will prove that you aren't one of those "new fangled punks."

4. Speech:

Have clean, clear diction and speak sans "like" or "you know." It is important to be articulate because that inspires a feeling of intelligence and education in the person you are meeting with. Always leave out profanity, and whatever you do, make sure to speak loud enough for all to hear, because conversationalists are easily agitated if you force them say "excuse me?" more than a few times.

5. Discretion:
Choose what to share about yourself: forget to tell everyone about that time you went camping and ruptured your appendix, then fell face first into a pile of bug infested leaves-it is rude and will alienate you from the group. Try to withhold from conversations on personal subjects like religion or more disgusting topics like personal medical care. Before you speak, think about the possible impact of what you might say, then imagine its implications in the long run.

6. Humor:

Humor can be your most powerful tool or your doom, because everyone has a slightly different sense of humor. What might be hilarious to you might seem disgusting to another, or vice versa. Try to withhold from any jokes that aren't family or dinner table friendly; you can tell those later.

7. Start and End with a Bang:
Whoever you are meeting with will remember how you greet them, and then in what manner you left them. If you feel you have trouble with this, practice a few different phrases in the mirror, and introduce elements like: "pleased to meet you," or "honored to make your acquaintance." Ignore the antiquity of these phrases; it often makes them more memorable.

Making a good impression will set any relationship off on a good foot. If you are in a situation where you need to be judged at face value-such as a job interview or date-then make sure to go through this list and make sure you are within bounds of reason and good taste on all of your decisions.

Happiness

Abraham Lincoln:
Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.-




Albert Camus:
You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.




Albert Camus:
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?




Albert Camus:
All men have a sweetness in their life. That is what helps them go on. It is towards that they turn when they feel too worn out.




Albert Schweitzer:
Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.

What are Negative Thoughtz

What are Negative Thoughtz .................................. 

 

 

 

People who are depressed typically think in a biased, negative way. They have negative views of theselves (e.g. `I'm no good'), the world (e.g. `Life has no meaning') and the future (e.g. `I will always feel this way')

Negative thoughts like these have several characteristics. They are:

automatic :- they just pop into your head without any effort on your part;

distorted :- they do not fit all of the facts;

unhelpful :- they keep you depressed, make it difficult to change, and stop you from getting what you want out of life;

plausible :- you accept them as facts, and it does not occur to you to question them;

involuntary :- you do not choose to have them, and they can be very difficult to switch off.

Thoughts like these can trap you in a vicious circle. The more depressed you become, the more negative thoughts you have, and the more you believe them. The more negative thoughts you have, and the more you believe them, the more depressed you become. The main goal of cognitive therapy is to help you to break out of this vicious circle.

Overcoming the problem

You have probably already discussed examples of your own negative thoughts with your therapist, and looked at the effect they have on how you feel and what you do. The time has now come to make negative thinking your main focus. This is the heart of cognitive therapy: learning to recognize when you are thinking negatively, to look for more positive and realistic ways of viewing your experiences, and to test these out in action.

At first, you may not find it easy to catch and answer your thoughts. Answering negative thoughts is like any other skill - it takes time and regular practice to be able to do it with ease. So do not feel discouraged if you have difficulties to start with. In sessions, you and your therapist will work together on identifying and answering thoughts, and your homework assignments will give you plenty of opportunity to practice on your own. The more you practice, the sooner answering thoughts will come naturally to you. The steps involved are described in turn below.

Step I: Becoming aware of negative thoughts

The first step in overcoming negative thinking is to become aware of your thoughts, and of their effects on you.

Negative thoughts make you feel bad - anxious, sad, depressed, hopeless, guilty, angry. Instead of being overwhelmed by these feelings, you can learn to use them as a cue for action. Notice when your mood changes for the worse, and look back at what was running through your mind at that moment. Over the course of a few days, you will become more sensitive to changes in your feelings, and to the thoughts that spark them off. You may well find that the same thoughts occur again and again.

How to do it

The best way to become aware of negative thoughts is to write them down as soon as they occur. You can to this on a Dysfunctional Thoughts Record (you will find an example of a completed record below). Write down:

1. The date

2. The emotion(s) you felt. Give each one a rating out of 100 for how bad it was. Zero, for example, would mean no emotion, 50 a moderate degree of motion, and 100 an emotion as strong as it could be. You could score anywhere between 0 and 100.

3. The situation. What were you doing when you started to feel bad? This includes, in general terms, what you were thinking about at the time. only put down the geneal topic here (e.g. `Thinking about how difficult life is'). What precisely was going through your mind should go in the next column.

4. The automatic thought(s). What thoughts were running through your mind at the time you started to feel bad? Try to record them as accurately as possible, word for word. Some of your thoughts may take the form of images in your mind's eye, rather than words. You might for example imagine yourself being unable to cope with a situation in the future. Write down exactly what the image was, just as you saw it.

There may be times when you cannot identify any thoughts or images as such. If so ask yourself what the meaning of the situation is. What does it tell you about yourself, your situation, your future? This may give you a clue as to why the situation is so depressing, or what is making you so anxious, or angry, or whatever. An argument, for instance, might mean to you that a relationship is at an end, of even that you will never be able to have a proper relationship with anybody. Once you can identify the meaning, you will be able to challenge it just as you would be able to challenge any other thought. (Details on how to do this are in `Step II: Answering negative thoughts' below.)

When you have written down your negative thoughts, images or meanings, give each one a rating out of 100 according to how far you believe it. One hundred would mean you believed a thought completely, 0 that you did not believe it at all, 50 that you half believed it, and so on. You could score anywhere between 0 and 100.

Common problems in recording negative thoughts

Timing

Ideally, it is best to record your thoughts and feelings immediately they occur. But of course this is not always possible. It would look odd, for example, if you got your record sheets out in the middle of a party of meeting! In this case, make a mental note of what has distressed you, or jot down a reminder on any handy piece of paper. Then set aside time in the evening (say, 20 minutes) to make a proper written record. Run through an `action replay', trying to recall in as much detail as possible what happened, how you felt and what your thoughts were.

Avoiding writing down your negative thoughts

Beware of excuses that keep you from focussing on your thoughts and emotions. You may say to yourself, for instance, `I'll do it later', or `It would be better to forget all about it. You may find that you are very unwilling to look your thoughts in the face. Perhaps you are afraid that they will overwhelm you, or think that they are stupid. It is quite natural to want to avoid thinking through unpleasant experiences, but doing so is the best way to combat your depression. If you find yourself making excuses, this is probably because you have hit on something important, so make yourself write it down. You can then divert yourself by engaging in a distraction exercise if you want to. But ignoring the thoughts will not make them go away.

Have a Blessed Day:)
BY:
Ayesha

Thoughts for Life

Thoughts for Life

The greatest handicap: Fear
The best day: Today
The easiest thing to do: Find a fault
The most useless asset: Pride
The greatest mistake: Giving up

The biggest stumbling block: Egotism
The most disagreeable person: The complainer
The worst bankruptcy: Loss of enthusiasm
The greatest need: Common sense

The meanest feeling: Regret at another's success
The best gift: Forgiveness
The greatest moment: Death
The greatest knowledge: God
The greatest thing in the world: Love

Have a blessed Day:)
BY:
AYESHA

Some interesting tips for Reduce Student Stress

As educational requirements get more stringent in all levels of education, students everywhere experience considerable school stress. Here are some student stress relief tips and tools that students can use to learn study skills, prepare for exams and minimize their school stress levels to make learning easier, including an explanation of the importance of student stress management, and resources to help you reduce the school stress you experience.

Time Required: Varies

Here's How:

1. Manage Time Wisely: It’s important to give yourself plenty of time to work on your studies if you want to do well, and you can save yourself a lot of stress if you plan ahead with good time management skills. Setting up a schedule for study, breaking up your studies into smaller chunks, and other time management skills are essential. Here are some more time management tips  time management tips you may find helpful.

Get Organized: Have a system of organization for note-taking, keeping track of assignments, and other important papers. Being organized  Being organized can bring you the peace of mind that comes from knowing where everything is, remembering deadlines and test dates, and clearing your mind of some of the mental clutter that disorganization brings. Keep a calendar, a schedule, and a filing system for your school assignments, and you’ll find it prevents a significant amount of stress!

Create a Good Study Environment: Creating a soothing environment can reduce stress and help you learn. Aromatherapy  Aromatherapy, for example, is a known stress reliever, and peppermint essential oil is said to wake up your brain, so I recommend burning it as you study. Playing classical music  classical music as you study can also soothe you and help you learn (unless you find it distracting). Here's more on finding a good study space  finding a good study space

Know Your Learning Style: Did you know that we don’t all learn in the same way? It’s important to know whether you’re a visual, kinesthetic or auditory learner, as you can tailor your study practices around your particular learning style and make success easier to attain. Grace Fleming provides a quiz to help you  assess your learning style  assess your learning style so you can streamline your efforts.


Practice Visualizations: Visualizations and imagery  imagery are proven stress management techniques. You can also reduce student stress and improve test performance by imagining yourself achieving your goals. Take a few minutes each day and visualize, in detail, what you'd like to happen, whether it’s giving a presentation without getting nervous, acing an exam, or something else that will support your success. Then work hard and make it happen!
Develop Optimism: It’s been proven that optimists optimists—those who more easily shrug off failures and multiply successes—are healthier, less stressed, and more successful. You can develop the traits of optimism develop the traits of optimism and harness these benefits for yourself, and do better in your studies as a result.

Get Enough Sleep: If you want your performance to be optimum you need to be well-rested. Research shows that those who are sleep-deprived have more trouble learning and remembering, and perform more poorly in many areas. Work your schedule so you get enough sleep  get enough sleep, or take power naps.


Learn Study Skills: Here are some more specific study skills and technique study skills and tecnhiquesd that can help you improve your performance. The more prepared you are, the less stressed you’ll be!

Golden Rules

The following golden rules for coping with life successfully.................

 *A*..........

Trust in GOD ,maker of heaven and earth and of all things and creatures visible and invisible .
Tust in Kindness of his law and the Goodness of his work and Strive to love him and the Goodness of his work while you live.

*B*...........

Trust un the nobleness of human nature in the majesty of its faculties .the fullness of its mercy and the joy of its love. And strive to love uour neighbour as yourself and even when you cannot.

*C*.........    
Labour with such strength and opportunity as GOD gives for your own daliy bread and all that your hands find to do it with all your might.

*D*..........

Do not deceive nor cause to be deceived any human being for gain and pleasure nor hurt nor cause to be hurt any human being for gain or pleasure nor rob nor cause to be robbed any human being for your gain or pleasure.


*E*...........

Do not kill nor hurt any creature needlessly nor destroy and beautiful thing but strive to save and comfort all gentle life and guard and perfect all natural beauty on the earth .

*F*.........

Do not strive to raise your own body and soul daily into higher powers of duty and happiness not in rival ship or contentment.

Have a blessed time :)
by:

Ayesha

Life

Is life worth living?...............................................
Has often been asked and many people would answer that it depends on one,s fate. Yest this idea of fate ,if rightly viewd should not lead a man to despair. In this world there is great scope for excercise of our wil and energy and we know that practically we are free to act or not in any particular way. 2here is nothing to prevent a man from believing that is is fate to make great progress ,to exert himself in this life and overcome many adverse cirsumstances and to become by strong faith and effort mentally rich ,happy, useful and successful, in the truest sense of the word .+n fact if we believe that the world is ruled by a benevolent diety it must follow that such is every man,s fate for it is the will of GOD
But apart from these mysteries which have puzzled man from the very beginning of time let us make an effort to know what it is that we are really to strie for in this life Is it to get rich?
Observation ,if not experience shows that wealth cannot confer happiness or make life truely comfortable The all important thing is not what we have but we are, not possession but character , not the means of living but life itself for: man,s life consisteth not of the abundance of the things that he possesseth. : we should regard it as absurd for a blind man to collect pictures, or for a deaf man to surround himself with musical instruments and yet there are plenty of people in the world who have indulged in equally irrational acts gathering wealth which they can never use,and which they do not know how to use when they get it A man ,s real wealth is not represented ny this balance or his sprawling property ,but by his capacity to enjoy and his ability to appreciate things .A walthy man no matter how rich he may be has his five senses and his own mind and heart only where with to take in the world
The poor labouring man often murmurs
have a blessed time :)
by :
Ayesha

Eat and drink but waste not in extravagance

PLEASE DON’T WASTE FOOD AND WATER

25,000 people are dying because of hunger everyday. We are lucky that we are not one of them. But are we sensible enough to understand their pain of dying because of hunger?

we waste hell amount of food in our everyday life, without realizing that some people in this world don't have enough food to run their lives. This is a very sensitive issue that we all should be concerned about.

Let this be remembered.. . each time we throw away Food!

People who are living in developed countries show ignorance towards these things. They don't want to know
them, never understand them!


Don'T waste FOOD any more...!!

This is one more reason why we have to thank God for the food that we can have easily. But in the otherhand….ironicly, we still waste the food that we buy

‘I felt very fortunate to live in this part of the world. I promise I will never waste my food no matter how bad it can taste and how full I may be. I promise not to waste water. I pray that this little boy be alleviated from his suffering. 

Wasting food is not good for anyone in anyway-to the economy, to the environment or to our own ethical justification. So if things are going wrong, we have to put them on the right track and so first we have to do fault-finding. Here we go- The basic reason behind this is degradation of ethics in men irrespective of caste, colour, creed, race ,region and religion.Scientific Inventions are creating plenty but commercial conventions are creating scarcity. Production units have become partly destruction units. Civilisation is moving forward-only to say but our values are actually moving backward. Frankly telling, there are lot of justifiable and unjustifiable reasons behind the above citations. No one can and should be blamed wholly for disrespecting this living God. 

I pray that we will be more sensitive towards the suffering in the world around us and not be blinded by our own selfish nature and interests. I hope this picture will always serve as a reminder to us about how fortunate we are and that we must never ever take things for granted. 

Think & look at this…when you complain about your food and the food we waste daily…’ MAY ALL HUMAN BEINGS BE FREE FROM SUFFERING!!!! 

HAVE A BLESSED TIME:
By:
Ayesha

Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime

Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.

Child labour in terms of begging is used as a profession by insecure group of people that forces children to beg. A child can earn maximum money by begging. They show burns on their faces and hands so they can earn more. As they grow older their earnings decrease, which gets most of them involve in robbery and prostitution. Child begging is the exploitation of children for money making reasons.

Most of the people view it as way of relief for their hunger and unsatisfied needs. Earlier people believed that beggars were be physically disabled people who could not find work so they have to beg for their survival. However it has been noticed that nowadays that majority of them are physically normal children but due to their un-hygienic condition they may prone to get health problems. If we want to discourage child begging we need to see its impact on the child’s physical, educational, emotional health and psychological development.
Begging neglects all children’s basic rights of physical and educational needs. Physical needs include insufficient food resources, housing and hygiene. Educational needs include getting in a school at proper age. However to fulfill their basic needs that is food and to relieve their hunger and to get the physical strength children need money and they beg to earn money. We can say that poor families forcing their children to adopt the role of primary income earner but by doing this they are ignoring their childhood basic life needs such as schooling.

Child’s begging results in child’s emotional insecurity and fear of being threatened or hurt by older or stronger street peers. Begging puts children under pleasure and they loose confidence in their own ability to deal with any difficult situation. During this period the life of child beggars, is like a honeymoon period which is characterized by freedom and excitement, becoming a part of experimentation.

Begging is exploitation besides the work they are doing. They are also abused physically, mentally and sexually by the people around them.
Begging impairs a child’s psychological development who develop anti social behavior including living with a complexity or fear. A child beggar gets separated from his family, has low self esteem, and is likely to hold self negative behavior. It seems parents of child beggars are less sensitive to their children’s basic needs. Poor families cannot provide their children with a sense of belonging, which is necessary to promote children's interest. If a child is moved away from his parents than his psychological development gets impaired and there is a chance that the child will develop some kind of mental disorder in his adulthood, which may result in having  antisocial behaviors in him and he may involved in substance abuse and harm their health. In fact people believe that begging is socially shameful work.

Beggars need to kill their egos completely before starting to beg. Once they overcome this psychological barrier then nothing stop them from begging. They work very cleverly and they get used to it. Thus we can say that child begging results in failure to provide psychological care to him or her involves children in domestic violence and allows the child to participate in drugs and alcohol abuse. Eradication of beggars specially the children beggars is very necessary, giving them money is not only the solution to help them overcome their problem because it may only increase the chances of child begging on a regular basis and does not solve the root cause.




Street Children and child abuse

While most child workers have homes to return, the street children are completely alone and at the mercy of their employers, and circumstances night and day. Their number of meals is one to three daily, often getting leftover from the restaurants and eating-places in the areas they hang around. Many are also found in the vicinity of religious shrines where people donate food for the poor.

When these innocent children leave their homes whatsoever is the reason, they do not expect or anticipate the dire consequences. When they become exposed to the outer world they come to know how cruel and corrupt it is. They are at the mercy of criminals, drug addicts, traffickers and the police.

This is the most vulnerable group to Child Sexual Abuse. They are forcefully involved in it by the organized crime network, and latter it becomes a means of survival in the streets. Their erratic existence some times produces distortion of the mind in the younger children who lose track of time, and distance, they do not know how long they are wandering. The unhygienic living and eating patterns of these children lead them to wards variety of health problems, like malnutrition bacterial and parasitic infections, skin ailments due to exposure to the extreme conditions of weather. Studies show that among the most serious threats to the health of street children is their high degree of the exposure to drugs and sexual abuse. They use cigarettes, alcohol and different drugs. Drugs that are easily available are solvents, marijuana, crack and glue. This is a new observed phenomenon of intoxication in the street children. These children also have a higher risk of acquiring STD and HIV because of their exploitation by AID sufferers, junkies and abusers.

They are often looked upon as delinquents, so nobody is willing to employ them in their homes and workplaces. This rejection from the society has an effect on the society. They develop anti social behavior, become criminals abusers, addicts, molesters, robbers, or drug traffickers just at the age of 16 to 18 years. They have no faith in humanity, no obligation. They know no law, no education, no system, no future and no life.



HIV/AIDS increasing in country

Most of the 15,000-20,000 estimated child sex workers present in Lahore live in areas near bus stands and railway station. Male child prostitution is more common than any other form of commercial sexual exploitation in Pakistan.

Though the trend of selling organs (kidney.) for cash does not seem to have caught hold in Lahore or was not reported, quite a few children were aware of the fact that they could sell their blood for money if the need arose. The limited blood screening facilities make such practice extremely unsafe and can spread HIV/AIDS on a rapid scale. Though not a single child admitted to resorting to this practice, they had come to know about this through adult drug addicts.

In Pakistan, the estimated population aged below 18 years is 71 million, and 3.6 million children are involved in child labour. About 1.2 million children are on the streets in Pakistan’s large cities, working as beggars, vendors or shoeshine boys.


Two million youth in karachi drugs addicts:

In Karachi the main addiction is of Hashish, because this drug is easily available at every nook and corner of the city. The main trafficking areas of hashish are Chanessar Goth, Dhobi Ghat and Massan near Keamair, he said.  In Karachi more than 25000 children are living on streets and they are highly vulnerable to HIV/AIDS, as they are also involved in sexual activities, he said, adding that 74 % of these street children are addicts. He said drug supply is available all around the city through those street children. 

Pakistan 1.2 million street children abandoned  and exploited

An estimated 1.2 million children are on the streets of Pakistan's major cities and urban centres, constituting the country's largest and most ostracised social group. These include 'Runaway' children who live or work on the street, as well as the minority that return to their families at the end of the day with their meagre earnings.

"World Vision is gravely concerned with their growing numbers. Children are turningto the streets amidst increasing poverty, unemployment, swelling family size and social disintegration seen in abuse in schools, as well as domestic violence, neglect and family breakdown," said World Vision Country Director, Sigurd Hanson.

"Street wise" as early as four, these children beg and scavenge around rubbish dumps or industrial waste sites or take on menial jobs as cart pushers or dish washers, working 12-15 hours a day to earn around 75 rupees or US.25- enough to buy a meal if they are fortunate. Most survive by prostituting themselves, stealing or smuggling, making them vulnerable to contracting sexually transmitted infections, HIV/AIDS, Tuberculosis, Jaundice and liver or kidney disorders. A large proportion sniffs cheap, readily available solvents to starve off hunger, loneliness and fear.In order to save children from child labour and to help them avoid this insecure profession, we need to create and build an environment which is safe and supportive for them. It requires preventive measures, providing of adequate services like food, shelter and training to support those who beg as a profession.

Caring for children
The rise in incidents of street crime in Karachi and other cities of Pakistan has been the subject of a report released this week by a local NGO. What the report highlights is the growing number of street children involved in this activity. This is cause for alarm. There has been a significant rise in the number of street children, particularly in Karachi says the report adding that the reasons for children running away from their homes include domestic violence, sexual abuse and corporal punishment at schools, especially madressahs. This is an issue that has to be dealt in a proactive manner. It may be noted that street children end up joining gangs which offer them protection in return for working on the streets. The gangs force the children into prostitution and crime. There has been a rise in child prostitution in the cities as a consequence of this.  Also, incidents of petty crime have also risen as children are forced to beg, steal and borrow to retain their gang membership. Many of the children also turn to drugs and other substance abuse which only complicates the problem.



First we need to build this insight amongst ourselves that we will treat who are beggars with kindness and respect them and if we want to help them we could offer them food instead of giving them money.


We as a part of this nation need to ensure that beggars are able to live successfully with better lifestyle and also they permanently get rid of begging.Beacuse as we already aware that child beggars are already at risk as they have short term and long term impact on their lives. Each one of us from this society has a responsibility to ensure that these vulnerable children are protected. If we are able to do so we should give them one to one support, provide positive alternate activities or work for earning. All community people and stake holders should jointly resist any form of child begging using their best resources. Being community health care workers we should organize awareness programs for the community people especially sensitizing the parents regarding children rights and growth of development. We also need to work with the NGO’s with the consensus of community leaders. to identify their basic needs and its alternative solutions which can help them in growing children’s quality life, specially the child beggars need to provide education, professional training, food and accommodation so that they become useful citizens of our country.

Have a blessed time:)

This candle will forever stay lit
for  all the innocent children.

:By
*Ayesha*

Women have strength

 women,s day special

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                            ♥    AMANDA NICHIPOR ♥

Women have strength beyond muscular ability. Life begins in a womans body, what stronger power is there than that? We have a strength in will and dedication. We wear many faces, as mothers, sisters, daughters and wives. We have a responsibility far greater than that of any wage paying job, our jobs are priceless. We tend to our husbands, we raise our children, we take care of our mothers and we are always there for our sisters. We do not get paid, we pay a price. We sacrifice all of our personal dreams in order to make the dreams of others come true. We love what we do but forget to love ourselves too, we're often last on our own list. We may never get a thank you or even a silent acknowledgment but we know that God is watching over us and for every thing we do, we are being blessed by God. We don't need anything more than that. All the hard work we do now, is only the less work we'll have to do in heaven/paradise. (  i would like to thanks for AMANDA NICHIPOR  who  writes these beautiful  words on the behalf of my request thank u so much  stay blessed)
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♥ Ayesha  ♥