How good are you at being rejected? The ability to handle
rejection is one of the most important skills we can master in
life. As you pursue your dreams, there will always be those who
will tell you that you just aren't good enough. The road to the
attainment of our goals is rarely rejection-free. Yet, when doors
are slammed in our faces, many of us conclude we must be on the
wrong track. It is amazing how willing we are to abandon our
heartfelt dreams because someone else doesn't believe in us.
rejection is one of the most important skills we can master in
life. As you pursue your dreams, there will always be those who
will tell you that you just aren't good enough. The road to the
attainment of our goals is rarely rejection-free. Yet, when doors
are slammed in our faces, many of us conclude we must be on the
wrong track. It is amazing how willing we are to abandon our
heartfelt dreams because someone else doesn't believe in us.
REJECTION AND YOU
It’s hard to be rejected when it’s your art being rejected. It does not come close to the same feeling as not being selected for a team, or a job. It hits a much harder and closer to home plate. The feeling is more closely related to that of being dumped by someone you love, and having all your personal belonging thrown on the lawn when you’re:
A. Not used to being rejected or
A. Not used to being rejected or
B. Look at rejection negatively and lack coping skills on that department
Rejection is never what we want to get into our email, our mailbox or hear in person or on the telephone (including texting). Most of the time when rejection comes we had been waiting for a period of time, holding onto hope, which makes the rejection ever harder to take. We can look at it as a slap in the face or we can change the way we view the rejection, and gain wisdom and move forward and grow.
OPTIMISM
There is no reason for not being optimistic about opportunities you try for because if you always think you will be rejected in fear of losing that high feeling of possibility, you losing the point, and you will be rejected more often with a poor attitude. Always be optimistic but don’t let your world crumble when you don’t get what you want. Having a temper tantrum is a slight turn off, try to avoid that.
There is no reason for not being optimistic about opportunities you try for because if you always think you will be rejected in fear of losing that high feeling of possibility, you losing the point, and you will be rejected more often with a poor attitude. Always be optimistic but don’t let your world crumble when you don’t get what you want. Having a temper tantrum is a slight turn off, try to avoid that.
CURATORS/EDITORS AND THE OPINIONATED (added via suggestion)
Many times when submitting to something you have the opinion of just a couple people, and sometimes just one person. Note that the person who is looking at the work might be looking for something specific or might have a specific taste, which directly means that it might not be about the quality and how great technically you pull off your craft, but more about the needs of the project.
Many times when submitting to something you have the opinion of just a couple people, and sometimes just one person. Note that the person who is looking at the work might be looking for something specific or might have a specific taste, which directly means that it might not be about the quality and how great technically you pull off your craft, but more about the needs of the project.
REJECTION. WHY IS IT GOOD??
1) This means there is room for improvement. It could mean with your art, the way you wrote a submissions, or your attitude. No matter what and who you are, there is always room to improve, and use that rejection as a catapult to get on doing that! Show those people that did not take you on that you are high class, respectable and took what they said with grace, and that you are working to do better and better. This makes them look at you, and keep you in mind for future projects.
2) Rejection makes you humble. It makes you understand that you don’t get everything you want. Who does?
3) Rejection might be keeping you from making a mistake. Maybe the universe is watching out for you making sure your plate is not too full so you don’t overload and fail, and put too much pressure on yourself.
4) Rejection can be informative, motivating and encouraging.
5) Look at it this way: You got rejected, you did not get ignored - which I feel is much worse.
In spite of the rejection they encountered, these individuals
persevered. Each was challenged to believe in himself or herself
when others didn't. Each refused to allow someone else's negative
opinion to become a roadblock in the pursuit of lifelong dreams.
You, too, can use the inevitable rejection that comes your way to
fortify your belief in yourself and fuel your progress. Here are
six steps you can take to master the art of being rejected:
1. Let rejection be a signal to go inward, and do some soul- searching. Ask yourself: What do I really desire to create in my
life? Am I pursuing this path because it is truly what I want, or
is it what someone else wants for me? Then write down your goals.
2. Use rejection as an opportunity to better yourself. Ask for
constructive criticism. Take note of any ways you can perform
better next time. Would it help to take a class or read a book on
the subject? Then do it.
3. Reconnect with your inner guidance. Close your eyes and ask
yourself what the next step is for you. Be still and the answer
will come--either right away, or in the next few weeks. Your
inner guidance is always moving you towards something, rather
than away from something. It gently nudges you to take those
actions which will enable the fulfillment of your desires.
4. Remember to lighten up and have fun along the way. When you
are following your bliss, you are in alignment with your higher
purpose. Let your life be a joyful adventure, in which the
journey is as important as the destination. Try not to take
yourself so seriously.
5. Remind yourself that encounters with those who do not believe
in you are an opportunity to strengthen your belief in yourself,
and your commitment to following your inner guidance. Only you
hold the map of your life territory within you. Others cannot
possibly know what is right for you, or what you are capable of
doing, being, or having.
6. Visualize the attainment of your dreams. Put your body in a
comfortable position, either seated or lying down. Close your
eyes, and take some deep breaths. Imagine that it is a year from
now, and that all of your dreams have become a reality. Create a
movie in your mind, in which you live those dreams. Make it as
real as you can. Be lighthearted and playful with your
imagination. Get excited about it. Use all of your senses. Don't
worry if you can't see things clearly--its okay if you just sense
what it feels like to have attained your goals.
7. Celebrate your rejections, for they are a sure sign that you
are stepping out of your comfort zone and living your life to the
fullest!
*Aisha chaudhary*
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