Helping Yourself by Helping Others - Live a Happier Life Following Six Simple Tips

 

One of the best ways to improve your life is to help and be kind to others. The happiest times of my life have been the times that I was helping others. In this article I would like to talk about 6 tips that will really improve your relationship with others and enrich your own life.
Here are the 6 simple things you can to do for other that will enrich your own life:

1. Treat others the way you'd like to be treated. This is the golden rule. If you'd like others to show
you respect and be nice to you then you've show others kindness and respect.

2. Smile and look people in the eyes. This is a great way to show respect and kindness. When you smile and keep eye contact with others it shows that you're interested in what they've got to say.

3. Always be polite. Use words like please and thank you. People that are polite are a joy to be around. You'll notice a lot more people on your side when you're polite.

4. Be Confident in yourself but at the same time you must be humble. Nobody likes a person that is full of themselves. Be opened minded to the opinions of others and never judge people.

5. Look for the good in people. Don't get caught up in people's negatives, look for the good things that other portray. We all have negatives, and nobody likes when others point them out
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6. Listen! Listening is such a good quality to have. When someone sees that you you're truly listening to them it shows that you care about them and you're more concerned with them then yourself.


None of these tips should sound new to you, but I'm sure there's a few that you could work on. None of us are perfect but I know we'd all like to be happier; being kind to others is one of the best ways to achieve happiness in our own lives.

JUDGE NOT

Scripture cautions us not to be harsh and judgmental of others' faults, even where they are evident, because neither are we perfect and free from error. The admonition not to regard the speck in your neighbor's eye before removing the log from your own eye finds parallels in many scriptures. Rather than justify ourselves and blame others, we should look into ourselves for having such feelings of resentment. We should look into ourselves for where we may have been at fault, and from that starting point we can sincerely strive for reconciliation.

 According to islam
                    If you want to criticize someone, first criticize yourself more than three times. 


 "The good man does not grieve that other people do not recognize his merits. His only anxiety is lest he should fail to recognize theirs.



"He who treads the Path in earnest
Sees not the mistakes of the world;
If we find fault with others
We ourselves are also in the wrong.
When other people are in the wrong, we should ignore it,
For it is wrong for us to find fault.
By getting rid of this habit of fault-finding
We cut off a source of defilement.
When neither hatred nor love disturb our mind
Serenely we sleep.
  have blessed time :by
Ayesha

LOVE YOUR ENEMY

LOVE YOUR ENEMY

The prescription to love your enemy and to requite evil with good is sometimes thought of as an impractical and perfectionist ethic, able to be practiced only by a few exceptional souls. But, in fact, this doctrine is widely taught in all religions as a fundamental principle for pursuing relationships with others. The person who insists upon vengeance or retribution is not necessarily committing a crime, but neither will his act of revenge be helpful to spiritual advancement. Revenge, which requites evil with evil, only multiplies evil in the world, while love, by in which one strives to overcome evil with good, spreads goodness in the world. True love is unconditional and impartial--thus the metaphor of the sun that shines down on all life. It is tested and proven by encounters with those who are difficult to love. Where true love prevails, there no enemies are found.
The concluding passages dispute the prescription to love your enemy when it apparently contravenes the principles of justice and right. Sometimes the best way to love an evil person is to make him face justice, or to hinder him from doing wrong. Nevertheless, these corrective actions should be done with a loving heart and with the other person's welfare uppermost in mind.

"He abused me, he beat me, he defeated me, he robbed me!" In those who harbor such thoughts hatred is not appeased.
"He abused me, he beat me, he defeated me, he robbed me!" In those who do not harbor such thoughts hatred is appeased.
Hatreds never cease through hatred in this world; through love alone they cease. This is an eternal law.

You have heard that it was said, "You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy." But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you salute only your brethren, what more are you doing than others?

Islam. Qur'an 60.7
Aid an enemy before you aid a friend, to subdue hatred. 

The good deed and the evil deed are not alike. Repel the evil deed with one which is better, then lo!, he between whom and you there was enmity shall become as though he were a bosom friend. But none is granted it save those who are steadfast, and none is granted it save a person of great good fortune.

According to Anas ibn Malik, the Prophet said, "Help your brother whether he is oppressor or oppressed."
According to Anas, after the Messenger of God said, "Help your brother whether he is oppressor or oppressed," Anas replied to him, "O Messenger of God, a man who is oppressed I am ready to help, but how does one help an oppressor?" "By hindering him doing wrong," he said.
Hadith of Bukhari

have a blessed time :by Ayesha

Divine Love

Whilst human love so often brings frustraction and suffering divine love being real love we have a feeling of oneness with the entirely of GOD,s creation our soul is consciously or unconsciously seeking union with the highest transcendental consciousness when we love the source ,we at the same time See GOD in all nothing can be kept away from our divine love we understand at heart there is no separation only an unbreakable bond of unity and oneness.***
** In secrecy supreme
is see you
you live in my eyes
in my sleep
in my dreams
in my sweet wake
fullness...........
In the stupendous mirth of life
in the abysmal lap of death
you i behold your
love play is my world.**
have a blessed time :) by
Ayesha