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Author***AMANDA NICHIPOR***

how to Respect yourself

Having respect for others is difficult if you have no respect for yourself. The idea of self-respect is very closely related to self-confidence, but respect is more about what you do whereas confidence is about how you feel. The two go hand-in-hand. This article, however, will focus on how you can demonstrate respect for yourself. Odds are, when you do these things, you'll find your confidence increases as well.

Think about what it means to respect someone. The qualities that we respect vary from person to person, and the way we express it varies from culture to culture. Generally, we respect people who have more experience and are more accomplished than ourselves. But there is also a basic level of respect that most people will agree is a right, and does not need to be earned. Consider what that kind of respect (which we'll refer to as basic respect) entails. Here are some widely agreed upon signals of respect:

Practice basic respect towards yourself. Whatever you believe to be respect, apply it to yourself.  dont harm ur self Don't insult yourself. Don't steal from yourself (like recklessly putting everything on credit; you're essentially taking money from your future self, because you'll have to pay up eventually). be honest with urself  And develop your own opinions. See how to be a skeptic  and  how to think for urself.
Recognize when people disrespect you, and take steps to stop it. A person with self respect doesn't allow others to treat them badly, and would rather not associate with someone who is disrespectful. This might seem obvious, but there are many times when we accept being treated badly (in both big and small ways) because we believe the person doesn't know any better, or because we're not willing to let that person go, or because we're too down on ourselves to believe we deserve better. When someone doesn't give you basic respect, you need to be able to say, in one way or another, "You just disrespected me and that's not acceptable to me. If you don't respect me, I won't spend time with you anymore." Can you say that, and mean it? Can you turn your back on someone who's clearly shown that they don't respect you? Once you do, you'll feel your sense of self-respect go up.

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• HOW to recognize a manipilative or controlling relationship  - It can be hard to see when a person close to us is being disrespectful, especially if they're subtle and sneaky and it's been going on for a long time.

•  HOW to stop being needy
• Many times in dating or friendships we let people walk all over us because we feel needy.

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•  HOW to stop being people pleaser

• - Paying attention to everyone else's needs but your own is a classic sign of low self-respect.

GET to know urself  personality, and talents. Stop pandering to other people's approval and start developing your own standards. Someone else might respect a fancy title, but you might respect creativity.

DO respect and take respect

Many sayings are taught at an age when we cannot comprehend the full meaning of it. We then learn by rote and can appreciate only when we grow up and certain incidents in life remind us of them. This saying gets handed down from elders to youngsters’ right from the beginning of childhood. I guess it must have been a lesson in Moral Science for all of us which we do not remember.


Respect is honor or admiration towards another person for a particular quality that you like in them. This is a smaller variant of love. There are no tiffs involved in this as in love. Unlike love, you will be always sure if you have respect for someone or you don’t. With time, respect also grows or diminishes like a money plant that is believed to grow only if its master is rich.


Respect is like a two way lane in any relationship that we come across, be it professional or personal. You can earn respect only when you can give respect to the other person. Let us imagine that you are driving on a two way lane without a divider in between. You and the driver coming from the opposite side, can remain on the road safely only if both of respect the space in which you drive.


I feel that respect is also cyclic. You can give respect to another person only if he is worthy of that respect, similarly you can earn respect only if you are a respectable person. Respect is not something that can be begged, bought or ordered. Respect got by such means is either temporary or a feigned. Respects becomes a commodity in such cases which only the rich can buy instead of being a quality in someone.


You can see for yourself what difference respect makes by adding or removing it in every new acquaintance that you make. Important things we need to respect in the opposite person are age, knowledge, principles and privacy.

If people start respecting each other, then the world would be a wonderful place to live in. This can happen only if people become tolerant and realize the importance of co-existence. Gone would be the wars and so many decimations which we often witness these days. Even the Almighty might revoke plans of doomsday after seeing such harmony among his creations.